Thanksgiving Is A Dating Opportunity

Growing up on the stories of the Great Depression, my father entertained us with the trials of how he and mother caught a ride with someone coming to the West Coast.  There wasn’t room in the car for their belongings so they tied them in sacks and attached them to the underside of the car.  Several hundred miles outside of Albuquerque, and more than a few bumps in the road later, they checked the sacks only to discover they were ripped.  Dad said he and mother were picking up their underwear alongside the road from Oklahoma to New Mexico.

I think of these stories now as our country experiences economic trying times.  My parents arrived in California begging for jobs in the cotton fields—hoeing and picking.  Dad milked cows on the night shift and worked the fields during the day.  Mother made a papoose carrier for my sister and took her to the fields while she worked.

They got through those hard times then, just as we will now, with a lot of work … a little help from their friends.  For those of you who can afford the time or resources to be a friend to others this Thanksgiving, it would be a great gift if you could make the effort.  Take a minute to look for ways in your community where you can find a family or person in need and make a contribution.

This year, Thanksgiving feels like more of a new beginning than in years past.  With job losses and the current economy pressing down on most people, the word Thanksgiving doesn’t spill from the lips so glibly.  It has a deeper meaning… and the potential to renew our beliefs and values in surprising ways.

Being single and looking at the Holiday Season through a new lens, here are some of the things you might see this Thanksgiving:


When people complain about how tough things are now, and how they can’t get ahead, I’ve heard more than one senior citizen say, “Some people made money in the Depression.”  That’s worth remembering because it reminds you that you still have choices.  There are probably more opportunities out there than you realize. It may take some brainstorming with friends and colleagues, some taking stock of all the skills and talents you have to offer, and definitely, some creativity to think outside the box.  But shifting your focus from lack to possibility could open new doors for you.

This Thanksgiving you are also more aware of the fact that you have the opportunity to help others in need.  Whether it’s in small or large ways, someone in your neighborhood or community needs your attention and assistance. (And don’t forget our furry friends at the animal shelters.  Somewhere, one of them is just waiting to give you unconditional love.)  Life is full of potential for you to connect with others in lasting ways.



If your budget is small; if your family is not near; and if you want to be with people over the holidays, suggest sharing a dinner—at your place or theirs.  If getting together can’t be done on the exact holiday, at least set up a time during this season for a potluck meal.  Look for other low-cost or no-cost ways to celebrate the holidays, like attending church choir performances, school plays, recitals, and free concerts.


You need to plan ahead because the last thing you want to do is be on the Internet on a major holiday… searching for a date.  Choose some activities with others for special events that are traditional during this time.  This is also when your call to a your local homeless shelter, soup kitchen, orphanage, or nursing home would be most appreciated.  Ask what you can do for them at this time. You could even inquire through one of these agencies to see if someone would like to come to your home for dinner.  Local colleges have many students who have nowhere to go for the holidays.  Students from foreign countries usually can’t afford a trip home, and are all alone in their dorms. Think ahead about how you want to spend each holiday if you are alone.  You have an opportunity to share it.

Get out!

The holidays are usually the best times to meet someone.  If friends or colleagues are having a party, be sure you knock yourself out to attend.  This is often the only time other singles are social so don’t miss one “single” opportunity to go to a social gathering.  Pull your wardrobe together, get a haircut, and be ready to get out there and be friendly!


Thanksgiving is your time to reach out to family and friends, but most especially, to others who may be struggling this year.  This is your special moment to show others that you care.  Have a blessed holiday.

About Tonja Weimer: Published Author: 8 Books, her latest book, Thriving After Divorce, is on shelves now.  Her books have won over 25 awards.· Columnist: Weekly syndicated singles and dating columnist (over four million readers in the U.S. and Canada) · Media: Coverage on TV, including CNN’s ShowBiz Today; rave reviews in USA Today, Entertainment Weekly, Publisher’s Weekly · Author: NBC/USA TV Network, selected author for articles on dating and singles for website · Articles: In House Beautiful, New Woman, GRAND, and other national magazines · Coach: Master Certified Singles Relationship Coach; Associate Certified Life Coach; International Coach Federation; Relationship Coaching Institute; Institute for Life Coach Training · Keynote Speaker: Regional, National and International conferences in U.S., India and Europe · Academic: BA; MA in Human Development; U.S. Dept of Mental Health full fellowship
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